End of Life Planning
Talking about death is an essential part of a good life. Taking the first steps towards making an end of life plan for yourself or a loved one can potentially be the hardest stage, as it may stir intense thoughts and emotions. We are here to help guide you through the process. By making end of life preparations, we provide to ourselves and our loved ones the gift of clarity and help to make our wishes and plans known. Not only can this provide you with a sense of peace, it will comfort your loved ones during the initial shock of loss and guide them.
While many wait until later in life to plan, it is a responsibility that ought to be given attention sooner, especially when entering a committed relationship, having children, moving, or if your wishes change.
None of this needs to be done alone. Our cemetery committee, staff members, community, and Rabbis are here for you. Jewish tradition has insightful and comforting perspectives on life and death, and on our opportunity as well as responsibility to leave a legacy that will comfort, calm, and support those who will mourn our death.
Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no harm, for You are with me. (23rd Psalm)
When Someone Dies
A synagogue is a place where we often share the great moments of our lives in the context of tradition. At no time is this more important than when one of our CBI families experiences a death. Dedicated congregational members and staff are ready to help you as you grieve your loved one’s passing. We can guide you to people who will help you arrange a funeral, burial, and what you need for shiva.
When a member of the community dies we ask that you contact the Rabbi by calling the office at 413.584.3593. If the office is open connect with the front desk (x2), if it is after hours please leave a voicemail on the pastoral emergency line (x1).
According to Jewish tradition, the burial takes place as soon as possible after death. The family will want to meet with the funeral director to select a plot (if not pre-arranged), an Aron (a casket) and to make any other necessary arrangements. Our rabbis will work with you and the funeral director to determine the best time for the funeral. Funeral services are not held on Shabbat or major Jewish holidays.
The rabbi will visit with the family prior to the service to provide support, answer questions regarding Jewish Law, and provide any needed advice. Also at this time, the rabbi will gather information about the deceased from family members for the eulogy and help make preparations for Shiva (the seven-day period of mourning following burial).
We are also here to help you build your life after having lost someone you love. We welcome and encourage you to join a havurot (social group), immerse yourself in learning, or take part in a minyan (prayer group), as well as simply take the time to come by and be here in community during shabbat and special events and allow us to hold you during this time.
Memorial Plaques
Congregation B’nai Israel has a large display in the lobby with individual plaques in memory of former family and friends who have died. Each plaque contains the name of the deceased as well a yahrtzeit light that is turned on at the anniversary of the person’s death.
If you would like to arrange for a bronze plaque for a loved one, we invite you to do so now. The one-time cost is $800, which includes installation and perpetual maintenance.